How creating healthy boundaries produces space for you to intentionally live your life
Have you ever felt overwhelmed, having too much on your plate, and feeling frustrated because you can’t say “NO” to others?
Do you feel like this behavior is affecting you and preventing you from focusing on what’s most important to you? Do you feel like you can’t show up and be your best as a result?
Stop Explaining Yourself. “NO” Is A Complete Sentence.
Setting healthy boundaries is so important for a balanced life. As you spend time on what matters the most to you and fill your cup first, you will show up as the best possible version of YOU to serve others no matter where you are needed.
Many of my clients struggled with boundaries. As a result, they were too busy and could not find the time to care for themselves or to focus on what THEY wanted to do.
I used to spend so much time coming up with excuses every time I wanted to say “NO” to something, or I beat myself up for saying “Yes” to things I had no desire to do. Until I learned that “NO” is a complete sentence. It really hit me. I understood I was trying to please others and not loving and respecting myself in the process. I was spending too much of my time creating explanations nobody was asking for.
I want to inspire you to love and respect yourself by saying “No” when you need to and fighting the urge to explain yourself. It may not be easy at first, but I believe you can do it.
However, all that changed when I learned how to recognize my people-pleasing behavior and made the CHOICE to modify it. I learned to love and respect myself and know my limits. It helped me to release the constant pressure and the overwhelmed feeling I was carrying.
Boundaries Are Hard At First But You’ve Got This!
Creating lasting healthy boundaries is essential to setting yourself up for success in your process of becoming. I remember one case where my client struggled to say “NO” to others. She had people-pleasing tendencies and avoided conflict at all costs. This didn’t serve her. In fact, it made her feel out of control and heavy every time she said “Yes” to something she wanted to say “No” to.
I coached her to think about boundaries; what it would look like to set healthy boundaries for herself, to make her needs her top priority, and how that would help her and make her feel. She identified some healthy boundaries for herself and immediately started applying them. The transformation began, and as she pushed herself to say “NO” when she needed, she started seeing things differently.
Those around her accepted and respected her decisions without questions. She created more time to focus and work on her goals, and enjoy herself by removing the pressure and weight she was carrying by trying to please others over herself.
What I want you to take away from this example is that the scenario you create in your head, your feelings, and the excuses you tell yourself to continue a certain behavior, may not be true.
You may be trying to protect yourself and stay inside your comfort zone. However, life is short, and there is so much more for you outside of your comfort zone, beautiful.
Become The Queen Of Healthy Boundaries
Setting healthy boundaries is an important part of maintaining a balanced lifestyle. Here are some tips to help you out:
- Define your boundaries. You may have to re-teach others in kindness how to respect your new lifestyle.
- Be bold and speak up for yourself. Say “NO” when you need to. Remember, “NO” is a complete sentence. I promise you, the more you do it, the easier it will become.
- Make sure to schedule time for yourself so that your personal cup stays full of what nourishes you.
- Don’t be afraid to seek out professional help if you feel overwhelmed getting started or if you need accountability for sticking with your plan.
Following these tips will help you create strong and lasting boundaries that will benefit your relationships, foster personal and professional growth, and remove the pressure of pleasing others.
I hope this encourages and inspires you to step into the power of NO, and regain the valuable time needed to put yourself first. It’s time for you to start living the life you were made for, and I’m here to help you grow there! Let’s do this! Are you ready, Beautiful?
